Bonnie, you are sharing your point of view, and I am sharing mine. If you are allowed to share yours, which you certainly are, I am allowed to share mine.
There also must be space for learning - Every time someone challenges you, it is not "judgemental" - It is more information to consider. It is a push to go deeper and to practice better allyship.
This response holds white people accountable to examine what impactful, meaningful actions we can and should be taking to dismantle white supremacy.
It seems like there is a word missing in your last sentence - Can you clarify?